The Name Game - Part Two
Naming a baby can be a complex craft. Naming a child who has been adopted from another culture can be even more complex.
The topic of naming adopted children is raised every few months on various discussion boards, with many schools of thought around this... particularly with regard to China adoptions, where abandoned babies are often named by the orphanage director.
Some people believe that the name is the only thing a child brings with them from their birth culture, so it must be preserved.
Some believe that because the name is given by the orphanage director, often as a required task and not as an act of love or genuine consideration, that it does not hold great meaning or significance, so it shouldn't be kept.
Some believe the child should be given a new Chinese name, picked by the adoptive parents.
Some believe that if a child looks Asian, their name should reflect that.
Some believe that their child is beginning a new life, so they should have a new name.
Some believe that their child is now [insert nationality] and therefore should have a name that reflects that nationality (eg. American, Australian).
Some say that with the identity issues an adopted child goes through, they usually want to fit in with their peers, who have 'regular' names.
Some say that it depends on the age of the child at the time of adoption and whether or not they know their name yet.
It seems (not based on any statistical research, just my own observations) that most children adopted from China are given their first name by the adoptive parents and keep part of their Chinese name as their middle name. Some suggest that this gives the child the option for which name they may choose to use later in life.
There are worthy arguments and reasons for all the above thoughts. I don't think there are any easy answers. I don't even know yet what I believe most or what we will choose to do when it comes to naming our baby. It's an area I'm trying to learn more about.
There's an extremely thought provoking post over at Twice the Rice called Naming, Renaming and Reclaiming. She talks about growing up as a Korean adoptee in America with a name that is obviously not Asian. I'd like to read more from adult adoptees about this topic, reflecting on their own thoughts and experiences. Sure got me pondering...
